Blogger Flirting
Is it flirting, or is it just commenting? Where's the line?
How do we know when we've crossed it?
Everyone is aware that J is known as THE "Blogga Playa", but when should it be taken seriously?
posted by Desiree @ 12:34 PM
Tuesday, May 24, 2005
How do we know when we've crossed it?
Everyone is aware that J is known as THE "Blogga Playa", but when should it be taken seriously?
13 Comments:
Sometimes it's flirting. Sometimes it's commenting. Unless you're meeting up with each other and talking on the phone and planning dates, it's harmless until someone feels uncomfortable.
Okay, I'm sure I will change my opinion on this after we have a big discussion about it. So, actually, I'll just say that, for now, it's a gray area.
Well it depends, if it's me and you're hot then YES it's flirting.
If it's me and you're KOM, no it in most definately NOT flirting.
It's not what you say, it's HOW you say it.
Oops, I just looked at the clock gotta go, I'll comment more later.
You all look lovely by the way.
Even you KOM, nice shirt! :)
ooh, good topic. I am in a committed relationship and have never felt there is anything wrong with a little "harmless" flirting. It's what you allow to come (hey, careful!) of it that you have to be thoughtful of. I say you always leave the party with the one that brought ya.
Thanks - I just washed it, handsome.
I think Reese is right - it's harmless until someone feels unconfortable. And there lies the rub. Even with emoticons, it's difficult to properly express yourself when writing, and something meant in jest can easily be misunderstood.
On the other hand, I've seen comments that seemed completely innapropriate (to me), but were either encouraged or misunderstood by the host. Whether through naievete or "any attention is good attention", I'm not qualified to say.
That sounded awfully judgemental, but I am the arbiter of all rights and wrongs, so there.
Hmmm...no meeting up, no talking on the phone, unless its with Caro, and what if people feel uncomfortable for no reason!
I'm not a blogger flirter!
Reese, what do you think? You're always right.
Well, as I am always right, I would say that you just have to be yourself. Try and think before you speak and that's about it. If someone feels uncomfortable or doesn't like what you said, they will tell you. And, then you can deal with it (or not deal with it, as in, "Hey, I was sooo not flirting with you, dude!"). In the end- it's no biggie. Just blogging.
I agree with Reese all you can do is be yourself and that is it.
To take the conversation in another direction...
Does anyone else think that the idea of "blogger flirting" is kind of a non-issue, anyway? Am I too old fashioned, and don't see the possibilities in the medium? Or are things close to how I perceive them: people that don't know eachother from Adam, and only have access to one sense (sight), trying to hook-up in this environment is very odd, indeed.
It was a non-issue to me too, until someones wife /ex-wife(?) gave me a warning about it.
Meh. :)
when he (or they) turn up on your doorstep wanting coffee because they've traced you through accidental hints and through the phone book.
It happened to me once... twas quite scary.
mind you here, i'm on the other side of the planet to the rest of you, so i'm not that worried because i'm sure none of you would spend $2k and 24 hours sitting on a plane to actually stalk me :)
in videoblogger land, from whence i come, the two biggest vlogging evangelists hooked up through thier vlogs and are now in a relationship. although when someone can see you on video all the time as opposed to just reading your carefully crafted words, it's a bit different. i've always been a fan of internet crushes. of course i've never been stalked....
Is talking on the phone always considered flirting? Hmmm. Interesting. I think you can meet people and develop friendships in here in much the same way you can in RL and I talk to my friends on the phone all the time. - what is the difference in meeting and liking someone online and developing a friendship.. - and meeting and liking someone in person? I fail to see the difference - unless of course there is exchange of bodily fluids =)
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